Who IS Gary James?

If you've been member of a4cwsn for any length of time, you'll have seen and noticed that Mr James likes to share that he worked for the Rolling Stone.  After some googling, you guessed it, this fact about Mr James appears as well to have been a stretch of the truth.  I also recently did another blog post about some of the deception that has come to light regarding a4cwsn and Mr James (linky-do)

(Don't worry, I have tons of pretty pictures and linky-dos for you!)

So, Let me show you what has been discovered about this claim.

In this picture, he shares with #storyappchat that he was in Marketing for Rolling Stone AND Google 

In this screenshot, he says that he worked for Rolling Stone again, on Facebook

Next will be a bunch of screen shots from different articles related to a4cwsn and Gary James, I will include linky-dos after pictures.

Linky-do 1 ; Linky-do 2 ; Linky-do 3 ; Linky-do 4 ; Linky-do 5

So, we see all of these wonderful articles and how he time and time again mentions that he worked for Rolling Stone, correct?

Well, let me show what he actually did now.  Linky-do

For the non link clickers and just because I love me some pretty pictures. 

I underlined the keyword in that paragraph there.  Butler.  Yes, folks.  That's right. He was a Butler.  Also known as an Estate Manager.  

As we know, Mr James is also always mentioning his Olympic career.   

" Gary James wasn’t always a butler. A track-and field star in his native England, he loved nothing
more  than  running,  jumping  and  competing.
Back  then, his  life  wasn’t  about  serving;  it  was  about
striving, sweating and sprinting." - Direct quote from above posted Linky-do

He may have certainly worked for Wenner Media, managing that building, other quotes from him imply that he was working AT Rolling Stone Magazine.  His work for LA Reid/Roger Waters was as an estate manager/butler, still a really sweet gig in my opinion. No shame in that. However he has misrepresented himself as having worked in PR/Marketing for Rolling Stone Magazine. 

I also have this email.

• 
  
  The Gary James who submits interviews to (removed for privacy).com is NOT the same Gary James that appears in the video that you sent us a link to. Our Gary lives in Syracuse and is a retailer when he is not interviewing people.
  
  I will forward your e-mail on to our Gary and let him provide you with any further information that you may need.
  
  regards
  
  (Name removed for privacy)
  
  
  Date: Tue, 10 Jan 2012
  
  To Whom it May Concern,
  
  Please read this, I would really appreciate it!
  
  I found your website while trying to get to the bottom of a controversy in the Special Needs Community.
  
  There is a gentleman fundraising in the SN community who's name is "Gary James" and claims to have worked for Rolling Stone Magazine. 
  
  I have posted a link to show you where he states that and a picture of the gentleman in question. All I need to prove that this gentleman is NOT the Gary James that worked for Rolling Stone is some sort of Photo to prove they are NOT the same person. Can you please help? Also, if this is NOT the same person, can you PLEASE give my contact info to the "real" Gary James?
  
  Thanks so much for taking the time to read this. I am only trying to get to the bottom of this and expose the truth so I can help clear up this situation. If you can shed any light on this, it would be very much appreciated.
  
  Link with info about the "Gary James" in question. You will see he clearly states he worked for Rolling Stone Magazine.
  
  http://autism-light.blogspot.com/2011/10/gary-james.html

  
• 

  Autism Light: Gary James

  

  autism-light.blogspot.com

It seems that he figured some people would google Gary James and Rolling Stone Magazine and come across this gentleman, linky-do - He did indeed write for Rolling Stone Magazine. 

If you simply google Gary James and Rolling Stone Magazine, you can clearly see how people would assume he worked for Rolling Stone Magazine.  Linky-do

We are given half truths and he doesn't bother to correct them. 

I do not doubt that he's rubbed elbows with some influential folks.  I do believe it's a stretch to say you worked for Rolling Stone Magazine as a butler though. 

It's kind of like saying you worked for Oprah, when in fact you only cleaned the Harpo Building. 

This man has obviously represented himself as someone who he aspires to be, someone he has never been.

a little piece of feel good

In light of recent events, I wanted to take a moment to share a blog post that isn't filled with venomous comments and hate speech (err, not from me, the comment section, damn those hatters!) Which isn't to take away from that situation at all. 'Cause that shits just c.r.a.z.y.

Moving on though,

The other night I was talking with my sister.  She's been following the blog posts, and obviously she has heard my first hand account of my experience. Anyway, she came across this video and then shared it with me. I know the situation in the video is unlikely to happen.

If nothing else though, I am hoping to remind everyone to think of those around you.  Remember to to be kind. I know this sounds all wishy-washy, lovey-dovey, blah blah blah.  But seriously.  Just watch the effing video.

(Please note, comment section is still open, however, if it goes down the same path of the venomous, hate speech, I *will* be deleting.  This is a feel good post.  Any assholes need not comment).

Just the Facts

Wow, I cannot believe the response my recent blog posts have had. Especially yesterday's.  I cannot believe the comments left!

I started blogging about these issues to hopefully help show other special needs parents the truth about a4cwsn.  To help protect them. I know they probably feel as though they don't need my protection. I disagree. More than ever do I disagree.

For those of you who haven't yet had an opportunity to look at the previous blog posts and comments sections, here are some pretty pictures.  Keep in mind, these are just a few of the comments off just the last blog post (linky-do), this does not include comments from any of  the others.  Gary/his wife's comments are marked with a black square around them. (Please note the first comment where it is confirmed that its Garys wife/Gary- the writing styles and information being posted are too similar to Gary's style to not be him, in my opinion).

 I would like to take this opportunity to ask all of you who have been following my posts to really ask yourself if what is being posted by the "great leader" really makes you feel confident in him? Do you really wish to support someone who can spew out the venomous statements they have made over the course of the past little while?

Do you really condone this behaviour? Do you truly believe it is acceptable?  Let me be clear, I know a4cwsn is not the only person(s) slinging mud.  I don't think anyone of us will or has tried to deny that we've gotten hot under the collar and lost our tempers a bit, facts are facts. You can't deny the truth.  Frankly, the only person I see trying to deny the truth would be a4cwsn.

Some of these woman have been threatened that a4cwsn would go after their livelihoods, their job licenses-yet I know particularly of one, who has not engaged him at all.

We have had our names publicly posted numerous times (including yesterday on my blog- the comment was removed by me, on facebook, and twitter again as well), and he has told people to watch out for scams from us.  I'd like to ask what scams exactly? We aren't collecting money from anyone for anything.  We are a group of special needs parents who support each other.  I'm having a hard time figuring out how that could or would be considered a scam ????

What is Cyber Bullying/Harassment?

What is cyber bullying and harassment? I am going to take some time today to show you exactly what it is.
First, let's go through the definition and all that fun stuff.
Linky-do and another Linky-do  and of course for you non link clickers

Cyberbullying is the use of the Internet and related technologies to harm other people, in a deliberate, repeated, and hostile manner.[1] As it has become more common in society, particularly among young people, legislation and awareness campaigns have arisen to combat it.- Wiki of course!
Harassment by computer is a crime in several U.S. states (see computer crime). It is distinct from stalking in that stalking typically requires two or more contacts, whereas harassment by computer may be a single incident. It is also different from regular harassment, because the offence typically encompasses a range of crimes that would not be considered harassment if conducted in person.
Connecticut was the first state to pass a statute making it a criminal offence to harass someone by computer. Michigan, Arizona, and Virginia have also passed laws banning harassment by electronic means.[1][2]
Harassment by computer statutes are typically distinct from cyberbullying laws, in that the former usually relates to a person's "use a computer or computer network to communicate obscene, vulgar, profane, lewd, lascivious, or indecent language, or make any suggestion or proposal of an obscene nature, or threaten any illegal or immoral act," while the latter need not involve anything of a sexual nature. - Wiki link, obviously!

I have some more fun pictures to share with you all, so please get comfy and make sure you have your drinks and popcorn!  Two days ago, I put up a blog post (linky-do) Titled A Pattern of Deception?   The blog post is only facts.  No rumours, no hear say.  Lots of pretty pictures.  And I left it up to you, the readers to take from it what you want.
Since that blog post went up, the comments section has gone a little nutso. Which is okay.  I'm not heavy on the moderation, and none of the comments have been removed because well, I have nothing to hide so what would be the point?
Throughout the day I noticed a familiar IP address keep popping up in my email.  You see, I get a notification whenever someone posts a comment and included in that email is their IP address.  Anyone can look up an IP address. It doesn't give you anyone's name of course, but it gives you the area from which someone is posting, and their service provider.  Nothing really exciting.  Another linky-do. Soon, I realised I could link this IP address to a Gary James- ya know, the man behind the computer for a4cwsn.
The following screen shots are of the comments made by one Mr Gary James today on my previous blog post- oh ya, I forgot to mention that he's posting under an assumed name and not as himself.

Pretty Pictures

Now you're probably wondering how I'm able to connect the IP address shown at the bottom of all of these emails to him right? Well, ya see.  I was given this other email which shows his ip address in the email... from him.  Another pretty picture for you all...

And another pretty picture from one of the handy linky-dos posted above showing us where in the world is Carmen... err.. I mean, Gary James is posting from.

If you click on any of the above pictures they will become larger and you can read for yourself the comments that he's posting on my blog, or heck, just click on over and read it right there for yourselves. 

The whole point is, it doesn't seem to matter where I go, facebook, twitter, the blogging world, this dude is right there throwing obscenities at me, and some of my friends.  Yet, he sends ME emails about cyber bullying and tells me to pass it around? (You guessed it! More pretty picture on the way!)

As a side note, now I don't know about anyone else, but I keep seeing this pattern of behaviour.  You know, he calls people out on facebook- they can't respond because they're blocked, he takes down his twitter, and deletes posts from both of those sources,he has been posting on my blog as aspergersmom78, he hands his facebook page over to two woman for a month. Now I'm not saying a4cwsn has something to hide, but one has to wonder why a4 keeps hiding behind women?  

A Pattern of deception?

There have been a lot of questions surrounding a4cwsn lately.  I've done two previous blog posts about the cyber bullying happening : Blog post 1 & Blog post 2.  For those of you who do not understand why there are questions, let me fill you in.  You see, I've been a big supporter of a4cwsn.  I've spent countless hours promoting and taking part in the community there. As soon as I had questions regarding transparency though, instead of getting answers, I was banned from the page. You see, myself and some others noticed there seem to be a discrepancy in the funds coming in vs the iPads going out.   

I wanted to take this opportunity to show you what has been found upon further investigation about a4cwsn.

For the past couple of months, if you've been on a4cwsn's facebook page, or seen the posts on twitter, you would know that it's been said they are getting non-profit status,  It has been assumed by many that a4cwsn HAS or is GETTING a non profit status.  They are not, and will not be getting this status. Linky-do- Plug in a4cwsn and see what comes up.

For non link clickers

Have you heard of N4cwsn? No? Well, I bet at the very least, the name looks and sounds familiar.

It should, it's a4cwsn's other website. 

N4cwsn = Nannies for children with Special needs. 

So you're probably asking yourself why am I blogging about it? What does it have to do with a4cwsn? Well, let me show you what it has to do with a4cwsn.  

You see, there are these logo's on his n4cwsn website:

Directly above both logo's it reads "Connecticut Domestics is a member of  and or  listed with the following organizations." One is for the International Nannies Association. However, upon further investigation, it turns out that N4cwsn is NOT a member of this association. Linky-do

And for you non link clickers

The other logo is that for the BBB.  Again, it would lead people to believe that he is BBB Accredited. Again, if you search, you will discover he's not.  Linky-do

Again for the non clickers

Now, you tell me, is there a pattern of deception?

Edited to add, upon even Further investigation, more links on his website with no mention of N4cwsn/Connecticut Domestics, LLC.

On his website he lists the NAEYC, but upon searching their catalogues for both business names, nothing has come up.   Linky-do - Enter CT as the state, and nothing comes up under either name.