Saturday, January 7, 2012

What is Cyber Bullying/Harassment?

What is cyber bullying and harassment? I am going to take some time today to show you exactly what it is.
First, let's go through the definition and all that fun stuff.
Linky-do and another Linky-do  and of course for you non link clickers

Cyberbullying is the use of the Internet and related technologies to harm other people, in a deliberate, repeated, and hostile manner.[1] As it has become more common in society, particularly among young people, legislation and awareness campaigns have arisen to combat it.- Wiki of course!
Harassment by computer is a crime in several U.S. states (see computer crime). It is distinct from stalking in that stalking typically requires two or more contacts, whereas harassment by computer may be a single incident. It is also different from regular harassment, because the offence typically encompasses a range of crimes that would not be considered harassment if conducted in person.
Connecticut was the first state to pass a statute making it a criminal offence to harass someone by computer. Michigan, Arizona, and Virginia have also passed laws banning harassment by electronic means.[1][2]
Harassment by computer statutes are typically distinct from cyberbullying laws, in that the former usually relates to a person's "use a computer or computer network to communicate obscene, vulgar, profane, lewd, lascivious, or indecent language, or make any suggestion or proposal of an obscene nature, or threaten any illegal or immoral act," while the latter need not involve anything of a sexual nature. - Wiki link, obviously!

I have some more fun pictures to share with you all, so please get comfy and make sure you have your drinks and popcorn!  Two days ago, I put up a blog post (linky-do) Titled A Pattern of Deception?   The blog post is only facts.  No rumours, no hear say.  Lots of pretty pictures.  And I left it up to you, the readers to take from it what you want.
Since that blog post went up, the comments section has gone a little nutso. Which is okay.  I'm not heavy on the moderation, and none of the comments have been removed because well, I have nothing to hide so what would be the point?
Throughout the day I noticed a familiar IP address keep popping up in my email.  You see, I get a notification whenever someone posts a comment and included in that email is their IP address.  Anyone can look up an IP address. It doesn't give you anyone's name of course, but it gives you the area from which someone is posting, and their service provider.  Nothing really exciting.  Another linky-do. Soon, I realised I could link this IP address to a Gary James- ya know, the man behind the computer for a4cwsn.
The following screen shots are of the comments made by one Mr Gary James today on my previous blog post- oh ya, I forgot to mention that he's posting under an assumed name and not as himself.

Pretty Pictures





Now you're probably wondering how I'm able to connect the IP address shown at the bottom of all of these emails to him right? Well, ya see.  I was given this other email which shows his ip address in the email... from him.  Another pretty picture for you all...


And another pretty picture from one of the handy linky-dos posted above showing us where in the world is Carmen... err.. I mean, Gary James is posting from.


If you click on any of the above pictures they will become larger and you can read for yourself the comments that he's posting on my blog, or heck, just click on over and read it right there for yourselves. 

The whole point is, it doesn't seem to matter where I go, facebook, twitter, the blogging world, this dude is right there throwing obscenities at me, and some of my friends.  Yet, he sends ME emails about cyber bullying and tells me to pass it around? (You guessed it! More pretty picture on the way!)


As a side note, now I don't know about anyone else, but I keep seeing this pattern of behaviour.  You know, he calls people out on facebook- they can't respond because they're blocked, he takes down his twitter, and deletes posts from both of those sources,he has been posting on my blog as aspergersmom78, he hands his facebook page over to two woman for a month. Now I'm not saying a4cwsn has something to hide, but one has to wonder why a4 keeps hiding behind women?  


271 comments:

  1. again, dont you have anything better to do ? This is more crap that only you and a few others seem to care about!  This is still harraassment, and if I were Gary I would have you and the others in court!!! Please stop this continued harrassment and leave A4 alone!

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  2. Don't like it? Don't read it. Simple as that eh? This is my little spot in cyber space and seeing as what I'm posting is quite factual and backed up with evidence, well... Cest la vie and I'll post what I want to. Ps im going to keep posting til he stops stalking me on the interwebz.

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  3. I am in no way surprised by HIS behavior, as a mother of a special needs child I have seen way enough bullying behavior from this guy.

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  4. If your so "upset" by what she is writing why come to her blog and read it? Maybe if he answered questions, and didn't go into hiding then thinks wouldn't get posted about him. Also if he wasn't stalking people and obsessing over them and what they say. She has alights to write her experience with him. It's her constitutional right to say how she feels, freedom of speech is a wonderful thing. Like the people on a4 say all the time you don't like what is being said or done then STOP following her :) I for one love these post keep it up :)

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  5. I think this whole thing scares the jeepers out of me.....

    Why the hiding, why the avoidance and why are A4 supporters still coming to this blog and twitter and using hateful words and rude language.

    If you don't like it, don't read it.  If you don't care and believe A4 then stick with them....

    Oh maybe I'll make the bad list now......

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  6. I am a mother of a special needs child that was led to believe various
    things by Gary James, I donated over $2,200 and when I dared to question
    him he harassed me and posted my name publicly, I have seen many
    strange things on A4cwsn that do not add up, when I went about things
    the way most normal people would and just asked him a couple of
    questions he berated me and blocked me and has Today sent me a cease and
    desist letter through the man in Brown, I never took anything from
    A4cwsn and am heartbroken that he turned out to be someone that I do not
    only not believe in but someone that I feel will hurt the special needs
    community.

    You all must remember that in the very beginning that
    there were few people and that THEY along with Gary built this
    community, they have been banned and because you are desperate to get
    something for free and do not want to let go of the illusion that this
    man is "Just a man and a computer" refuse to ponder why he would tell
    closer knit members in the group months ago that he had stage 3 cancer,
    he so needed to have them get things done quicker because he had 3-6
    months to live? When they began to become disillusioned and began asking
    questions about missing donations and revenue generated by the ads and
    other things including his stage 3 cancer he became irate....

    DOES THIS SEEM REASONABLE?

    I
    know in proper circumstances it is not proper to ask someone if they
    have stage 3 cancer but when someone who stated they have a short time
    to live but yet never ever looked ill is planning trips to Australia
    months AFTER they were supposed to die, would you not question also?

    What
    if it were a man that did not have the ability to possibly give your
    child an ipad and that you had just given $2,200 because you believed he
    had cancer?  Then this same man appeared quite healthy never lost
    weight and then months after their life expectancy was up started to
    plan a trip to Australia?
    Would you then ask about the supposed cancer?

    Does
    it strike anyone as odd that he wont deny telling former members that
    he had stage 3 cancer and only a short amount of time left???
    Why would he tell them that if it were not true???
    Why wont he clear the air?  well I can think of about 11,000 reasons that he would not.

    Whenever he is asked about this his standard reply is "I refuse to speak about MY health with YOU, How dare YOU ask ME"

    I
    find this answer to be ironic since he has NO PROBLEM throwing around
    the health diagnosis for his two MINOR children in order to gain
    sympathy!!

    DOES THIS SEEM ODD TO ANYONE BESIDES ME??

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  7. Nothing better to do? She is writing a blog post. HE is coming on constantly pretending to be a woman and praising himself. And she is the one that that need something better to do? Look at your fearless leader. He needs a life!

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  8. why dont I see my IP address in my post ?

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  9. wow!!!!!!!!!!!

    I am so glad you guys are posting this. I was looking at ALL of his different facebook pages the other day (there are so many!) its frightening just how many "followers" and supporters he has. *smh*  Hig 5's to calling him out on this!!! 

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  10. Because your not the admin she gets it in her email :)

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  11. Morning Tiffany, how are you today? 
    You think you are so clever, but your really not. You accuse my husband of a federal offense, you email other Special Needs parents and tell them to follow your clan and leave A4, you call developers and tell them not to support A4, or more importantly, the parents who are there for help. You tell everyone that Gary is a thief and that everything he does is fake. Well i'm here now and I am talking to you as a mother who has Children with Special Needs and as Gary who is a Father of Children with Special Needs. And this is what I have to say. Your Blog is a HATE BLOG, it is here to show how much YOUR CLAN HATES my HUSBAND.  You are malicious and have no interest in helping SPECIAL NEED families at all. Accusing someone of a FEDERAL offense is a big deal, you may not think it is, but as you sit there, just know that everything you type and say is being copied and given to the lawyers. You claim 1 person can BULLY all of your Clan, you should really look at the comments to other people on A4, that have been sent by you and your Clan. The only thing that really matters Tiffany is that you are being SUED. Now If you have any illegal activity on Gary, maybe you should SUE him also or STFU. So i'm here, a mother and wife. Now tell me what your problem is with Gary and A4
    Julianna

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  12. Wow. You and Gary sure sound exactly the same! You use the same random capitalized words, use the same words to describe things.

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  13. Oh, and Gary always tells people they can call his number to talk to him. I assume we can call the same number and have the chance to talk to you as well?

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  14. Thanks for proving the point that Gary hides behind women!

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  15. I don't have a problem with your husband -- have never met him. I do have a problem with the lack of tranparency and I don't think it is too much to ask to for a public list of those who donated and those who received, so we can see for ourselves that the numbers add up. I don't understand why your husband doesn't do this as it would clear things up so much for people. I don't agree with posting phone numbers on twitter and the threatening tone that he takes, or the way that people who have asked questions have been kicked off the page, however, if I just knew that what people have implied is not true, and that all of the money/ipads/apps coming in matches all of the money/ipads/apps going out, I would know that, although he hasn't been nice to people on the internet, he is not guilty of what is being implied -- which is taking money meant for special needs kids and using it for other purposes. As his wife, who cares about him and his reputation, please ask your husband to just be transparent. That is my main issue and if he were transparent I think people would feel so much better about this and your husband would have a chance to save (at least) his charity's reputation, if not his own. 

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  16. It seems ironic that the 'word' clan is used when speaking of those who just want transparency and honesty as I would use the word 'cult' to describe the A4 community which I supported and donated to at first but when I asked articulate, polite and mature questions I was deleted, I was not answered, I was just simply erased. This could be all sorted out with clear, concise and professional explanations which so far, your 'husband' has negated to proffer.

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  17. Marianne, the fact that your group, seem to think you can TELL gary what to do and when is the biggest joke. None of you are big enough to apologize for what you have done and said, but when gary does post information about what he has done last year, all you will do is complain about it, even though you will clearly see that as a family, not only has gary spent a year doing this for others but that we have all sacrificed family time and our own personal money. gary does not need to save any reputation, you are the ones who's reputation will be questioned, especially when those accusing him of illegal things will have to prove them in a court of Law.

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  18. Deanne, I believe you are the SN mother who publicly stated that my children were being TORTURED and that you could not watch, is that correct. how dare you say ANYTHING about my CHILD with Special Needs!

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  19. Lisa, the comments that you and your husband have posted about my Husband are disgusting and wrong. You were given every opportunity to call gary personally and email him personally to get answers. What did you do, NOTHING, you kept spreading lies and telling people he was a thief and all the rest. He does not owe any of you any explanation for anything, especially his personal life, which you seem to enjoy talking about and spreading around the internet because you think it's funny. Well it's not funny, its very abusive and you have no idea of the impact that that has had on me as a mother. You have tried to destroy his reputation and all he has done is provide a place for other parents of children with special needs to gather and chat and share stories, get iPads and much more. You have no evidence of anything, you don't say anything that is worth reading, but you continue to try and destroy something good for others. WHY??

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  20. By the way I am Aspergersmom78
    Julianna

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  21. Julianna/Gary....whoever you are. 


    All I see is truth here, those are screen shots up there and its proof of what was said and done by either you or your husband. He is a bully! He has posted my own private information in a public place and has refused to take it down! He has repeatedly gone above and beyond to try and call us out. Any public figure with a business would have turned a blind eye and ignored it. Yet he thrives on it, he creates it his own damn self and I for one am tired of being publicly called out by him. My name was listed on A4 and then it was called for by his followers to call us scammers and have us reported to facebook. You say that A4 is a community but it stopped being that a long time ago. All it is, is a feeding ground for donating money for the "cause" 
    So whoever you are...really just open your eyes. Stop pretending that there isn't bullying going on. Because we won't stop writing about it till it stops happening.

    My own blog has had a 1000 page views, that's 1000 people who have seen what the A4 facebook page and the twitter page is capable of. I AM NOT SCARED OF YOU!!!

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  22. Hi, you may have me confused with someone else aspergersmom78. I do not have a husband nor do I continue to destroy what is good for others. All I wanted were answers to my questions that I posted on the A4 wall particularly to do with donations of money I had sent.

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  23. I don't think she ever used the word tortured. We (because I agreed with her). Said that you could tell he was uncomfortable and instead of turning the camera off when he was crying, he continued to video tape and make him pick cards.

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  24. What group? I ran across this on Twitter when I was looking at an autism newsletter and wanted to see for myself, so I started reading old tweets and came across this blog. I have been trying to catch up and am just wondering what is going on? I ask you for transparency and am automatically lumped in with a group? I am on the fence a bit -- just want transparency so everything would be clear and I could form a solid fact-based opinion about all of this and ask you to urge your husband to provide it. A request for transparency in a charity should not provoke a defensive attitude and finger pointing. Don't think that people are against you just because they want clear answers so they can make a decision for themselves as to who is in the right. And, as an outsider who just came into this discussion, I believe it would indeed behoove your husband to defend his reputation and maintain the trustworthy image of his charity, or all of his hard work will be for nothing. My thought here is why is this happening, what do these people have to gain from bringing your husband down? And what does your husband have to gain by not being transparent -- it seems to be hurting him, and you. 

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  25. Husband or boyfriend, i do not Care, Ron is his name, good enough LISA?

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  26. No honestly you have me confused with someone else.

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  27. All that is Lisa is 1000 people who will see you have to publicly apologize for what you have done and said to gary. Defamation is a civil matter and as you already know you are involved and action is being taken, your letter that you received was just the beginning of the process. The only Bullying that i see, is this bunch of women picking on my husband for helping others because you are pissed off.

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  28. Lisa, my apologies, this was meant for Lisa Gallegos.

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  29. My son has Autism and Epilepsy, now you think you can tell my family what to do and how? that is not your place and never will be.

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  30. hahahahaha. the mysterious Ron that no one knows who he is. Love it.

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  31. So come on, Tell everyone why you are doing this to my husband?? I want to know.

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  32. Still waiting to see if we can reach you at the same number that Gary keeps telling people to call to talk to him?

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  33. Interesting that you bring that up actually because it's a great example of Gary doing what he accuses others of. He's very quick to suggest that people defame him isn't he? It's almost the first thing he says whenever anyone criticises him. Sadly he doesn't live by the same rules that he believes govern others. Gary stated to Jillsmo on twitter "maybe I should post your friendd Deanne talking about torturing my children?" So it's not a surprise that you immediately connect my name with the word "torture" - your husband appears to be fond of using it in connection with me. In actual fact, I said "u have the gall to talk to me about shame when you force ur distressed children to perform for the camera then broadcast it on FB?". That statement was made in reaction to Gary insulting me on twitter and suggesting I had no shame. What is it about my statement that is untrue? The Christmas card video clearly shows that your son was distressed - something that Gary acknowledged on FB when he responded to a comment from a concerned parent by saying "that's what autism looks like." I'm sorry but yes, I did find it hard to watch and so did many, many other parents.

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  34. You'll know soon enough :)

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  35. Nope, not telling your family what to do. You can do whatever the heck you want. We were just stating that WE would never imagine ever doing that. Some parents let their 14 year olds smoke and drink. Not telling those parents what not to do, just saying that I would never do that either.

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  36. Thank you Marianne for seeing exactly what we're trying to do. All we've asked for is some transparency and accountability and in return, well, you can see what happens. Defensiveness and threats. Nobody wants to bring down anything that's good and positive and legal. We just have pretty reasonable questions that haven't been answered.

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  37. This is your chance, you are calling my husband a Thief, Hacker, someone who is taking money from SN parents and using it for himself. That is what you are calling me also, a mother of children with special needs who has seen what her husband has done is 9 months. More than any of you will do in a lifetime.

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  38. oh by the way a list of 100+ iPad recipients just went up on A4, just FYI

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  39. How do you know what any of us have done in this lifetime or will do in this lifetime? He is not God. Stop pretending he works miracles.

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  40. Awesome! Looking forward to seeing a list of donations and seeing that they list of donations matches up with the list of receivers. When will that go up? 

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  41. So what time works best to call you?

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  42. Many ipads were donated by developers. Tiffany is on the list, even though she was given one from an iPad1 because an A4 member received an iPad2.

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  43. Marianne, do you think that a Facebook page is a Charity? Please don't tell me that you are all pissed off because his FB page is not a Charity but a FB page and that my husband has made it into a great community and people have donated by their own free will to help other families?

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  44. That gives you the right to tell people my child is Tortured? That gives you the right to tweet shit that my husband is a thief and hacker? even before you get answers? I don't think so. What that is is HATE and nothing less.

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  45. This is unbelievable. Now you are claiming to be your wife?

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  46. If you can read, read what it says at the top of the Post, all names are those who received iPads through the A4 community, I think he made that quite clear, so what would 108 iPads cost to buy, somewhere around $57000 if they were all 16gb right? the fact that 5+ of those were 64GB 3g is another matter and this is just the iPads, not iPods or cost of trip to drive over 20,000 miles or cash or cases or apps or anything else. Your story is falling apart very quickly isn't it. As you will see you are here because you HATE.

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  47. No he is not God, he is a dad of children with special needs who cares enough to change total strangers lives!!

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  48. I might suggest that Tiffany or someone blog an audit of that list because it's ridiculously overstated. For example, just looking at it I can see that there are double counts. Karen Meyer donated her iPad1 to Tiffany, Rebecca Cox donated her iPad1 to Cyn B. So that's TWO iPads from A4, not FOUR iPads as the list states. I see both of the iPads that were donated from iStorytime (a developer) on the list. There's iPads there that parents partially purchased. A4cwsn seems to be very ready to take lots of credit for iPads that were funded/donated by others.

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  49. And this list includes all the iPads where people paid $300 to upgrade from an iPod touch. (still waiting on when to call)

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  50. "tweet shit" almost as classy at STFU. Classy.

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  51. YOU have ChildREN with special needs? Like plural? I thought his other child with SN was his daughter who he has little contact with?

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  52. Maybe you should read what the post says also Deanne, all iPads on the list were received through the A4 community, does it say gary purchased them all or any? NO so read things first. you are very fast to call people liars and such, but don't read the facts. 

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  53. READ what it says, all iPads on this list were through the A4 community, you can understand English right? I'm from Hungary and I think I understand better than you!

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  54. You're hilarious. I'm not saying anyone is lying "Julianne". But it's a clear misrepresentation.

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  55. You need to open your eyes SCREEN SHOTS equal truth. HE posted my private home number on twitter. HE refused to take it down. HE then posted my name along with 18 others saying we are trying to bring him down.


    I've been bullied by your husband for way to long...me and Ron will not stand for it!
    You want to read my blog then do it....post comments see where it gets you. But your husband is in violation  of twitters privacy laws and he's  BULLY!!! 

    http://racersmommy.blogspot.com/2012/01/when-online-bullying-attacks-parents.html 

    Also you should get straight what I've accused him of as well. 

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  56. Not that I've ever said ANY of those things but hey, why let reality impinge on your fantasies?!

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  57. I am very confused now. What is being implied all over the internet is that the cash/ipads/apps donated exceed the cash/ipads/apps given out and people want to know if there really is an imbalance here and if so, where is that extra funding going. It is implied that your husband is keeping it and I am earnestly trying to figure out if that is true. I believed it was a charity as much has been made of the tax exempt status being applied for, but charity or not, the intake of funds should match the outgoing ipads and such, right? Oh wait, I do think that people are allowed to be gifted up to $11,000/year before it has to be claimed as income, so as long as you guys haven't kept more than $11,000 then you are fine with the IRS. So if people are giving funds to an individual as a gift then what is the problem as long as he is claiming any gifts over $11,000 to the IRS. 

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  58. You are the only one trying to say that the number given is not a true number of people who received iPads, either from A4, through A4 or by A4. You know the number is true. You just like to twist it. This is only the start of what you all wanted to see right, when Gary finishes, will you apologize, NO, because you are all HATERS.

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  59. I am very confused now. What is being implied all over the internet is that the cash/ipads/apps donated exceed the cash/ipads/apps given out and people want to know if there really is an imbalance here and if so, where is that extra funding going. It is implied that your husband is keeping it and I am earnestly trying to figure out if that is true. I believed it was a charity as much has been made of the tax exempt status being applied for, but charity or not, the intake of funds should match the outgoing ipads and such, right? Oh wait, I do think that people are allowed to be gifted up to $11,000/year before it has to be claimed as income, so as long as you guys haven't kept more than $11,000 then you are fine with the IRS. So if people are giving funds to an individual as a gift then what is the problem as long as he is claiming any gifts over $11,000 to the IRS. 

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  60. So, just to clarify, as I am not on the facebook, the list of ipads includes ipads that members have given to each other? As well as the ipads that have been donated by developers and members, as well as the ipads that your husband has bought with donations? That is very confusing to me. I think you need a spreadsheet to make sense of it to people like me who are newcomers.

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  61. I do not know if anyone has the answer to this...but since VSP is a non stock does that mean it will remain a NON -PROFIT....I personally do not care about the fb page...because that is all it is...but if we are talking about a charity, then EVERYONE needs to know if he (and the board..which still irks me bc it has close friends and family on it) will be making a profit.  there are some issues going on as far as I can tell (and I do think bullying is a huge issue, there ARE clear examples of it from both sides, so I am leaving that one alone for this post).

    1. can a FB be held liable for reporting to the IRS the money it makes...
    2. if it can, then was steps can be taken to figure out IF something illegal has been done
    3.  Is VSP for or non profit

    I cannot ask both sides to stop insulting, swearing, etc. at or about each other (insulting the kids...a bit low, come on, we ALL know better than that), BUT I think the argument trying to be made, would be better received (if you care to have others receive it), if we could FOCUS without attacking members, and stating the same thing over and over about transparency...because, simply, he does NOT have to do that.  Period.  Does it suck, yes.  would most normal causes have a problem showing their cards, probably not...but you are not going to get that answered from him.  So, can we not beat a dead horse and TRY to work on the underlying issues?  I say this only because the majority of A4 does not care about transparency....and you cannot make someone care about that...however, if a fb page of the man himself is to be held liable, that is a different story all together...or better yet...do not worry about the community, leave the members out of it, and go about doing this legally, without such malice (please! again the stuff to the members, kids, etc).

    If something is going to come of any of this...there will be many SN parents hurt...and where will they go?  not here when they have been insulted....try not to forget about them.

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  62. can we get a link...cant find it

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  63. Who has insulted SN children?

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  64. go through the twitter screen shots people have...there have been cruel actions on both parts...however, the point of my comment was to walk away from that and focus on the issue...insults get us no where...yet the one comment i get is about insults....please note that I am not defending his actions, but am asking people to regroup to what the issue is, since for me anyway, the point seems to be getting lost.

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  65. No one has insulted kids as you said though.

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  66. are you sure?  you have all the emails....

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  67. yes, thats exactly what the list is. its a gross misrepresentation.. 

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  68. Nonprofit organizational status is determined by the IRS. Any organization that holds 501c3 status is required to provide a copy of their IRS determination letter upon request of anybody giving them money. There are rules (a LOT of rules) that an organization must comply with in order to receive and keep 501c3 status, one of which is that they are publicly owned, i.e. non stock. However, just because an organization is non stock does not mean they are non profit; "stock" status is determined by the State the organization is located in and nonprofit status is determined by the IRS. Two different things.

    Here are some more things I know, having been a nonprofit Bookkeeper for 20 years:All 501c3 organizations are required to have an official "mission statement," for example, the mission statement of the ACLU (first org I could think of) contains "The ACLU is our nation's guardian of liberty, working daily in courts, legislatures and communities to defend and preserve the individual rights and liberties that the Constitution and laws of the United States guarantee everyone in this country."The organization is allowed to make a profit as long as they're able to prove that the majority of their revenues are being spent to serve their mission; this proof will come in the form of their Balance Sheet and Profit and Loss statement, which correlates with their 990.A 501c3 does not have owners, instead it has a Board of Directors and at least one staff member, called an Executive Director. The Executive Director can get paid as much as the Board of Directors determines, it isn't limited by IRS law as far as I know. However, Board members cannot profit from the activities of the organization, in fact, Board members aren't supposed to get paid at all. As a 501c3 organization are required to have their Annual Tax Income forms (990) available for public viewing; this, plus the mission statement, is the first thing a funder will request when the organization requests money, along with the organizational Balance Sheet and Profit and Loss statement.If you make a donation to an organization with 501c3 status, your donation is tax deductible ("to the fullest extent of the law.") If you make a donation to anybody else, for the most part it is not. If an organization makes a claim that your donation will be tax deductible, but it turns out that they do not hold 501c3 status, that organization is guilty of fraud.All of these things should be incredibly easy for a 501c3 to provide, at any time. If a person representing a nonprofit organization is unable to provide this information upon request, I would question the validity of the organization.I don't know anything about Facebook and the law.Does that answer your questions? I can tell you more if you need.

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  69. it shows up in the email everytime you comment. If you'd like, I'm more than willing to post a screenshot for you as well.  I really don't care where people are posting from, but got suspicious about how and what was being posted yesterday on my blog. So, I investigated the matter. 

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  70. VSP is a Non Stock Incorporation registered in the State of CT. Once we apply for 501c3 status we will be a Charity. A4 is a Facebook page and you are right,my husband does not have  to tell anyone anything if he does not want to, but for those that know him, he is not like that, he enjoys making people happy and the fact that certain people have DEMANDED things on THEIR timeframe is just ridiculous. What is more ridiculous is that those same people have called him several things, some of them are illegal to accuse people of without proof, so he will be taking legal action to have those people provide that proof. If he had something to hide I would assume he would not take this route. I have the comments about my children and also my mother in law and even about myself, never mind what was said about my husband. All of this is going to be presented to the lawyers, I agree with your statement, take legal action against my husband  and have him prove it all, because you will be left with the lawyer bills and will be the ones who are embarrassed and quite frankly, that would be a great day. You can already see a list of just iPads given through A4, how many do you think were donated, 10, 15, 20 Add that up and your still looking at         $ 47,000 worth of iPads given out even if you take $10,000 off for 20 donations.
    This is just iPads, not iPods or Apps or Cases or CASH or Gas or Hotels or food or 20,000+ miles on my CAR or postage or what it costs to run A4 every month. As a wife, I have had enough of the lies and slander and support my husband 110%. nobody said he was perfect, nobody said he was GOD, he has his faults and can be stubborn and pisses me off sometimes, but at the end of the day he is helping total strangers get help for their Children that have special Needs, just like our own Children.

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  71. This one is for you Tiffany, if you even dare to answer it from One SN Mother to Another. If A4 did not exist and Gary did not give an iPad to Karen Meyer would you have got the iPad1 from Karen?

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  72. care to elaborate on your Busted comment?

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  73. I have followed some of this for awhile I have to say it worries me.  My intuition tells me that this group of special needs parents are right. It saddens and worries me.

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  74. The syntax and context of aspergersmom78 and Gary's comments are so similar, it's incredible.

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  75. I wonder about the 'expenses' of the trips and the 20k plus miles put on the car and how much all of that cost. Would that money (which I am sure is considerable) not have been better put to use buying iPads for the SN families who were waiting/had made donations? Such a waste of money and all it achieved was to stroke egos. It is unusual for people who do good to look for that kind of praise/publicity and thanks, that isn't really the point of helping, is it? Less is more etc.

    This is initially what made me cautious about the A4 page, the expenses of the 50/50 campaign were not discussed at all.

    Also, while there may be 'plans' to file as an NFP I am not sure that people have fully thought about that. An NFP is not the same as people working voluntarily and with the expected board members to be all family/friends with no outside influence or professionals then it will be family/friends who decide on salaries.

    There is a lot to be concerned about looking to the future of this venture, not only what has happen in the past few months.

    If it is too good to be true then it usually IS!

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  76. I have now joined facebook just so I can see this list and don't see it -- was it removed? 

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  77. Interesting how you replied to this comment of mine but not the one that discusses IRS law. That speaks volumes about your motivation here, in my opinion.

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  78. Just curious, in any of the fundraising material does the organization claim that donations are tax deductible?

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  79. Well Jill, that's your opinion, and your post is factually wrong. If you don't thing Gary can make VSP a CHarity, sit back and watch

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  80. are you talking about A4 the FB page? VSP have not done anything yet.

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  81. Please specify which of my facts are incorrect and provide documentation which shows how they are wrong and what the correct information should be.

    Please also show me exactly where I said that I don't thing (sic) Gary can make VSP a charity.

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  82. I'm sorry, I don't know what VSP is. Is that connected to A4CWSN ? I'm talking about the A4 stuff.

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  83. A4 and your husband is not the end all be all of the ipad community. HE IS NOT THE IPAD GOD!!

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  84. Really cause from what I can remember that group...what did you call us yesterday "Bitches" I think. The clan you called us today. We helped him create that community he's so damn proud of!


    He couldn't have done it without the people he has treated so disrespectfully!

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  85. Wow, am I ever glad I left this a4 group shortly after joining. Something just didn't sit right with me. Seems to me this Gary needs to show some records of monies received, items purchased, items given out, etc. Surely any good business man/volunteer/provider for special needs children would have some kind of legitimate records! So many on this blog seem to be requesting this - why not provide the info? Too often good people are taken advantage of because they will do anything to help their children. This is starting to look like one of these scams. I only hope that this Gary and his wife see the need for some "open files" here to perhaps put some questions to rest. If not, think the police should perhaps be made aware of what has been going on. Just my two cents!!

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  86. Jillsmo, your post is legally incorrect. The IRS determines whether an entity is tax exempt, not nonprofit as you state above. You cannot become tax exempt unless you are a nonprofit corporation. Under Connecticut law, nonprofits are known as nonstock. A4cwsn is not an "entity" of any sort and has never claimed to be. Very Special People, Inc. (VSP) is a Connecticut nonstock corporation, which will be submitting an application for 501(c)(3) tax exempt status to the IRS. These are the FACTS.

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  87. I agree as his wife the Police and lawyers should be hired by anyone doubting him to investigate.

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  88. Instead of arguing with you, sit back and watch what happens. 

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  89. Who said he was?

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  90. LOL!!!! That's the answer I would expect from you.

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  91. thank you for this information.  I am very concerned about VSP being a FOR PROFIT organization and I cannot seem to find any information about that.

     Iam concerned about the statement that it can make a profit....I just wish we could have all the information about VSP ahead of time.  I very much appreciate you taking this time to educate me.  I have no left A4, as I enjoy the community very much, I  miss the people who were banned, and I hope that they, either through blogs like this or elsewhere, continue to get information out there.  I am eagerly waiting to know if fund collected through a fb page have a legal responsibilities..ie irs, etc. 

    THANK YOU for posting this!

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  92. will VSP be a for profit?  that was one of my other concerns.

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  93. No problem. I'm happy to answer more questions if you have them :)

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  94. This is what I see, a group of HATEFUL people who are jealous of what has been achieved by the A4 community. What any normal person would do, if they thought something illegal was going on is call the police or get a lawyer, instead all you do is talk and attack our Family. As another of mother of children with with Special Needs your attack and hatred for my husband is just sickening, not one person on this entire blog has posted anything that has any significance about anything. why not just take action or shut the fuck up. why, because you love to argue and I cannot wait for my husband to sue your asses for defamation. you make me sick, why not try helping someone yourself instead of hurting others. This is the last time I will post on here, but I can now see why gary has been so upset. You are all nothing more than Bullies, Haters and very pissed off jealous people who a lll need to get a life. I look forward to your day in court.

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  95. WOW, one last thing, we just found out that you are now creating FAKE TWITTER ACCOUNTS, A4CWSN1 was created and then deleted. Proves my point that you are sick. But also allows us to get the name of the people who created it. Thanks, 

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  96. A complaint has been filed AG of CT. Don't worry. :)

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  97. that's the point Tiffany, we are not worried.
    Have a great night, your time is coming, you are going to be sued, if you had any sense you would watch what you say, but you don't have an sense so keep talking about nothing to those who want to listen.
    Goodnight
    Julianna

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  98. I am sorry that your family is having to go through this... Gary is a wonderful person with a HUGE heart.  Since you support your husband I know you must be the same type person (a person with a big heart to help others).
    I couldn't agree more with your comment that if they don't think things are right then contact the authorities.  Why keep bashing or bullying someone?
    Please never forget there are hundreds of families and children who your families have made a difference in their lives.  God bless your family!  Beth

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  99. don't think you know me, Jillsmo, you know nothing about me, as far as I am concerned as a special needs mom, you are nothing more than a speck of shit on a bigger pile of shit, trying to find which piece of shit gave birth to you and called you shit. You want to go after a mother and wife who has seen more lies told on here and all your other FB / Twitter places than there are grains of sand on the beaches, then bring it on. I will not sit back and let you just talk lies.

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  100. You talk prettier than a two dollar whore :)

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  101. should I be concerned that I cannot get an answer about it being for profit....

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  102. I can't tell you what to think, I say trust your gut. If you called up Autism Speaks and asked them if they were for profit or nonprofit, how easy would it be to get the answer?

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  103. As an observer of the A4 page and now the controversy I wonder why someone who had a background in business (the SN nanny thing) wouldn't know that it might be a bad idea to ask for loads of contributions from a large group of strangers (IRL) and not keep records? If one assumes intentions were honest and it just grew too big too fast, you would then think he would be willing to open the books, so to speak, in order to avoid any appearance of dishonesty. You would think that leader would be eager to avoid any controversy by quickly hiring an accountant and sharing that information with the A4 community, I mean they are one big family so there should be no secrets, right? I am still trying to understand what the ladies who have questioned would stand to gain. Most if not all appear to have gotten their ipads, apps, etc already. It stands to reason that if they didn't care about anyone, they would take the goodies and walk away. The fact that they continue to question even at personal risk, makes me wonder if there is indeed a fire under all that smoke. I certainly don't know all the facts but it seems like the simplest way to solve the whole thing is to hire an accountant to sort through everything and present an open report to the group. A professional could probably give a timeline as to how long such a report might take to prepare and this date could be published to the group. The volatile behavior, the tantrums online, the deleting of accounts on twitter and FB as well as publishing private information on the net as well as the ending verbal gymnastics do not portray an effective leader or president of an organization. They do however lead one to believe that there may be something to hide. I think I can speak for many SN families who have seen all this, I am ready for everything to come out in the open.  I do mean everything, so that we can view it all, know the truth once and for all and then go on with our lives trying to do the best we can for our children with special needs.

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  104. Classy. Go hang out on Skype. I heard that's the cool thing to do.

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  105. Wow you really don't want to go there. You might be wishing for the grains of sand on a beach for what you have said. 

    BTW LOVE how you won't comment on my blog...scared much? 

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  106. Hey Aspergersmom78! Still waiting on what time works best to give you a call!

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  107. I don't have any emails. Who did the insulting? I'd love to know.

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  108. I personally would LOVE for you to find out who it was. I sure as heck know it wasn't any of us. So PLEASE, find out and clear our name on that one. Thanks.

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  109. Again, what CHILDREN with special needs do you have? You have ONE with special needs.

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  110. Who's the bully here? Or did you fail to read the blog? Those are comments coming from your IP address! lol you can't fake that. 

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  111. Beth open you EYES!! Who's the bully here? Wow diluted much?

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  112. Yeah, that'll further your cause in court.....

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  113. I don't haven't seen if anyone's insulted children or not - but I DO know I've seen some of the folk that have left A4 make mean and rude comments about the parents that were staying.....  I mean, I haven't read the book or anything, but I don't think that's how you 'Make friends and influence people'.

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  114. Have you read the comments the people that are part of a4 on this blog? Take the blanket off your eyes my friend.  Gary/Julie only have posted some pretty nasty things to people who aren't even involved with a4 and are just answering questions regarding non profits etc!

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  115. Fake twitter accounts being created by members of this blog. Here is a comment by one of the members, i removed the @ simple so you could read what Anne Yates posted. just put an @ in front of everyone's name.
    lovelylicious klbkolb a4cwsn_vsp actually, I would like them to contact Twitter and report this. I want to take down the REAL a4cwsn

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  116. nothing to hide, I am a bookkeeper so if you want answers get a lawyer or take a look at the PUBLIC donations on Giveforward, gary is hiding nothing, but you continue to claim he is. Prove him wrong, spend some of your own money like we spent over 20,000 of ours to make A4 happen.

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  117. don't worry, once created it is on the record, hers is another one @A4cwsn_vsp we will see who it is for sure

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  118. who cares if they came from my home computer, you think my husband cares about what you have to say Lisa? Your blog will just land you deeper in the shit than you already are and your husband / boyfriend Ron. keep on blogging

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  119. I do want them reported as well! It's BS that it is anyone from here. Nice try though.

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  120. 20,000? Just last week it was 30,000. Weird.

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  121. Absolutely! I would love to see the unedited email from Twitter notifying you of who it was. I am 100% certain it wasn't any of us. What would we have to gain from a fake twitter account? Nothing!

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  122. yes, it was definitely 30k. Gary, does your wife know you are impersonating her??

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  123. Who the hell is Ron??? We keep asking and don't get an answer. Funny stuff.

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  124. yeah, it is VERY true. I would not be involved in something that was not so blatenlty TRUE

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  125. Pleas be clear what libel, slander and defamation are before you accuse me of it. When I accuse him of being a bully its because that's what he is. I can't help it if you are to stupid to realize it. But you know what your husband is scared of me. You know how I know this...because you attack Tiffany here on her blog, even though I have said the same things on my blog. Do you think its because she has no power either. Because your husband accused me of that too. I don't need power to show the truth and spread it around like wildfire. I don't need idle threats of defamation when my private information was shown on public sites. So bring lawyers, whatever you have to throw at me. I don't care and I won't stop blogging till you and him get the point!  You have more to say to me bring it to my blog....I dare you!

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  126. goodness GRACIOUS.....this is the best line EVER!!! It is so SO SO FITTING!

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  127. We will post who it is, so don't worry

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  128. Nice post by Anne Yates though right, kind of proves our point, Hatters of my husband, That is all you all are.

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  129. You should take your own advice, honey.

    Seriously.

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  130. Here is another quote from Tiffany Squires " Restoring laptop now. Fuck u Gary James and your hacking" nice but makes great evidence for the courts

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  131. And what about the donations given through Paypal -  Of which I gave a decent amount to??  By decent amount I mean a decent amount from a mother of 4 kids (3 of whom have SN) 

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  132. I was responding to Kristin's post about it being fake. I fight fairly. Impersonating is not cool, just as hiding is not cool. I told Kristen to report it and gave her the link. 

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  133. Soooooo... what time should works best to call???

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  134. By the way, you have said MUCH worse to people on this blog today.

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  135. Yes, I see the Gary/Julie rants - but days, weeks ago - some of the ones that have left (or been made to leave) wrote comments on the A4 wall calling the other parents names - ignorant koolaide drinkers, etc...  As one of those parents - I'd like to know once and for all, what is the PROOF that we were told over and over that was held against Gary?  Where is this video of him playing hide the sausage with another woman?  People shouldn't run about making wild statements and flinging names at others without the balls to back it up.  Now granted - I have my thoughts on the matter all in a row - I like to think I'm a fairly educated individual - And quite frankly, this whole thing sounds like it was a grand scheme.  The thing that remains to ber answered is how much did some of these rabble rousers know, and when did they know it?  Did they decide to go along because they wanted to have some fun and get free stuff, did they just decide to keep their yips shut, or did they not know? 

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  136. the list is just as bogus as the poster....

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  137. What's a hatter? Is that like the Mad Hatter?

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  138. In the interest of transparency (HA HA HA!! See what I did there????) I have to admit that I stole that line from the movie Blazing Saddles :)

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  139. Here's this thing. I don't want to prove him wrong! I don't want to see the dream of 11K special needs families shattered. You don't get it, I just would like to see the truth. So you are saying anyone who wants to know the truth should hire a lawyer and spend money to find out? That makes absolutely no sense. Being belligerent does not solve the problem. I just need to know that
    the group is safe and honest before I promote it to people I know. PS: Hiring an impartial bookkeeper who is not related would probably be better.

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  140. Don't you have, oh... I don't know... kids? or.. something else to do with your time? Anything?

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  141. Excellent. Can't wait to see an unedited screen shot of an email from Twitter admin.

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  142. Blogs don't have members, they have readers.

    Just trying to make you smarter. :) YOU'RE WELCOME!!

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  143. That's cool, though, because the Mad Hatter is an awesome character

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  144. As I have stated, there is a case with the Attorney General's office in the state of CT.  You are welcome to call them to confirm this.  We are not sharing all of our evidence, because well, now that would just be silly wouldn't it? :) lol.  

    I personally have no knowledge of the video other than it has been confirmed to me by reliable sources that it does exist. However, I don't know about you, but i'd rather never lay eyes on it. :s  And No one that I knows ever posted saying they would post/share that video. It was some random twitter person- who none of us know. 

    These people had no clue aboutn what was going on until the questions started coming, things didn't add up.  Over a period of time we've unearthed a multitude of information which confirms our suspicions. 

    I hope this helps clear things up for you. :) 

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  145. Julie, you are an awesome wife and mom! I can feel your pain for what your family is being put through. Just don't get sucked in like your husband was. They will only keep on baiting you. Be the better person. Closing a Twitter account isn't hiding, it's being the grownup in the conflict and standing down from a fruitless argument.

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  146. accusing someone of a FEDERAL OFFENSE has to be proven in a court of Law. I look forward to Tiffany proving this in Court about my husband.

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  147. you will look cute in a Canadian court....make sure you bring warm clothes. It gets cold.

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  148. Yes, but nothing will make me happier than seeing all of the people on here who have lied and defamed my husband get what's coming to them. The more you all write the better it gets.

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  149. call whenever you want you have his number

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  150. That's adorable how you think that :)

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  151. That's a REALLY good tip, Anne!!

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  152. actually read your OWN COMMENT, ANNE YATES WANTS TO BRING DOWN THE REAL A4, thanks Anne, you make it easier for gary every day

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  153. `Wow! I am so sad to see all of the nastiness on these comments. I am having a hard time understanding why it has to be this way -- people want transparency and the person in question doesn't want to provide it. I get it, but why say to someone "you are nothing more than a speck of shit on a bigger pile of shit, trying to find which piece of shit gave birth to you and called you shit." I wanted to believe this was all just a misunderstanding. but where is all of that hatred come from if you have done nothing wrong. 

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  154. yep I do....it is not illegal to want someone not make it. I don't like A4 and what is being done. It is only natural that I would want it to fail. That is not illegal. I have free will and allowed to think that A4 is evil. 

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  155. You're a Bookkeeper??? OMG ME TOO!!!

    So, real quick: What is the best way to handle the allocation of shared expenses at the end of the year?

    Really can't wait to hear your answer because I have a few clients who are struggling with this issue.

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  156. I know it is, the funny thing for you is that I'm not the only one watching the blog, the people who are Suing the responsible party are also taking note, so like I said keep on posting : )

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  157. your writing style is SO CLOSE to your husband's....ghost writing??? hmmmm

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  158. "Suing" isn't supposed to be capitalized in the middle of a sentence like that.

    Just FYI.

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  159. Who the fuck do you think you are talking to, you may be a lesbian but I am not, if you want to see my ass then you can kiss it on your way to jail. As a mother you make me sick

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  160. careful now.  Remember, I can delete and block your IP from commenting at ANY TIME I FEEL LIKE IT.  SO you'd best watch what you say. 

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  161. It's his wife, or him pretending he's his wife that said that. Sad.

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  162. Oh please don't block him/her. This is fun!! For me!!!!

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  163. Seems that since you claim to be an accountant that you should perhaps just post the info being requested. This way your husband and his supposed non-profit group would be shown to be legitimate and would put many a question to rest. Surely you as an accountant would have records. There is always a reason why a group does not want others/members to view records!

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  164. Wow. I think that just went into the territory of a hate crime. You can not talk about a person's sexuality. Get a clue. Wow.

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  165. And I can speak with you? i'm not interested in talking to him, interested in when I can talk to you.

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  166. im not, yet.  but they keep posting crap like that and I will. That and the other comment directed towards you crossing so many lines it's not even funny!

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  167. Do we all have to be the Mad Hatter though? Or can we all pick a different character? 

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  168. Here is another quote from Tiffany Squires Tiffany I am sorry but I am clueless as to the person that keeps hacking into your account...December 29, 2011
    Tiffany SquiresHi ********, it's Gary James from A4 

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  169. You see I don't care what you say to me, as his wife i will defend what is the truth and you are all lying, HATERS.

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  170. NOW we are haters? Are you sure we aren't hatters?

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  171. Tiffany's comment holds no water in the courts at all. She is simply airing her frustration of your husband. This is not at all defamation or slander - telling someone F You is not punishable in a court of law!

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  172. That quote doesn't even make sense.

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  173. Sending you a BIG OLE KISSS.....you know....LESBIAN style!!! I love when you dress up as a mother. You remind me of Mrs. Doubtfire!! You know..the nanny??? well, the FAKE nanny??? 

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  174. Do you honestly have no idea how many of us are/were bookkeepers?  Gimme a break.  Not everyone that's asking questions is against you/Gary.  I like to think you'd be intelligent enough to be able to discern which from which.  These people are asking about the monies given to A4.  That's what they have been concerned about - now it's moving to encompass VSP.  All I have seen back from you on this page, is that A4 was NOT a charity, and you and yours were more than legally correct in doing as you wished with the donations - what ever shape they may have been in.  You've been telling people to go piss up a rope all day.  Now.  Why don't you just take a deep breath, steady your fingers, and type the answer out, once and for all?  If you're goiing to hide behind what you did - at least be proud enough to own it.  Stand up and spit it out.  To tell you the truth, to me, at this moment, it all smells like a Pyramid Scheme.

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  175. of course it does not, but when the judge sees it in full it will make perfect sense. 

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  176. Ok doke - on Gary's atty's twitter acct, she posted that it was no secret that the $$ and items donated to A4 and some other site, were being donated directly to Gary.  Period. 

    I can only deduce that this is because he stated I don't know how many times on the A4 page that it was simply "....just a man with a computer".  So - yes, some of it went out to where it was supposed to - but that's such a serious smack in the face insult.  I'm done with A4.

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  177. If you made them recently please put in a dispute with paypal. If it was used to pay for a raffle u will get your $$ back :) And realistically what do u have to loose?

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  178. He hates women...very simple especially strong women!!

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  179. Really Gary, you call yourself a leader?   listen to yourself.  Other SN parents don't need "public defamation" to judge you.  You make it all to easy for us to form our own opinions.  This is not defending yourself.  You add to the bullying.  I read it here and read it all too many times on FB.  The "drama" nights on FB?  Posts began with YOU.  I've never seen such a Dr. Jekyll Mr. Hyde in action like you.  
    You disgust me. 

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  180. This is incredibly sad.

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  181. I'm not calling until I know who I am speaking to when I call.

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  182. unless.....of course.....you are impersonating Sue.....which *COULD* happen....He is Julianaing now! :-)

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  183. He can't make up his mind either! Where ever u look it is a different # and a different diagnosis!!

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  184. Never in my life would I dream of speaking to someone in this way. Really, truly shocking behaviour.

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  185. No, I have no desire to watch porn - and if I did, I'm sure I could find a better one.  If it is indeed in existance - it is one of the items that should have been put on the 'keep it a secret' list.  While I do agree, it's better to keep your stock pile a secret in order to take an enemy out, sometimes, it also works to let them know precisely what you have, so as to make them shut up and go away with their tail between their legs. 

    Now I am hoping that the rest of the 'proof', 'evidence' is actually provable, and not just something that some random twitter person whom non of you know has spread knowledge of? 

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  186. 20,000+ would include $30,000 would it not?

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  187. I agree, no desire to see it whatsoever! 
    I do have it on good authority though it does indeed exist :( 

    As we have already filed a claim we are not privy to share that information, ykwim? 
    Gary and his wife can claim all they wish that the case has been closed, but we are in contact with their office on a regular basis. 

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  188. Yes.  Yes I am stating that your darling husband and maybe even yourself - I don't know about that - has been soliticing and taking monies from SN parents and using it for himself.  Yes - I am stating that.  As a matter of fact, I'm only repeating what your atty stated on her twitter acct, and what you yourself have said right here, on this very page. 

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  189. correct but accusing them of hacking is

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  190. You are lisa

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  191. We have 2 children possibly 3 children with Special needs, r u picking on my family Rivkah??

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  192. I wanted to believe too.  The thing is every time a simple question is asked, it's taken defensively.  He snaps back  I tried and have also seen innocent people try asking a question.  He gets very harsh.  That's what first began to turn me off. I honestly could not believe what I was reading.  But to this day, has has not fully owned up to any bookkeeping.  He's claimed that he posted a list of Ipad owners and monies rec'd.  I don't buy it.  His word?  Where's proof of the money.  Many ipads and apps were donated but he still accounted for them with his list.  All and all, he does not add up imo.  Yes, my opinion, not that of any group.  

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